Hydrate then Communicate

Communication is one of the first things we learned to do as children. It’s an essential part of our lives, so much so we’ve discovered ways to make communication easier no matter what language you speak if you speak at all. Despite its grand importance, one of the things people struggle with most in their relationships is just that, communication.

Communication all begins with expectations. We expect our work acquaintances to interact with us on a superficial level while also maintaining boundaries on more touchy topics, like politics or religion. We put our friends on a higher pedestal. Not only do we expect cordial conversations, we expect a level of acceptance no matter how our opinions differ.

With friends, a new dynamic is introduced into our relationships, reaching out. While in our superficial relationships, we don’t expect and sometimes don’t want to receive a random call checking in. In our friendships, there’s a level of expectation to be valued.

Here’s where communication gets tricky. Being valued means different things to different people. One person finds value in being able to maintain a relationship without constant verbal communication. These relationships become more valuable the busier you get. Knowing someone is going to be there no matter how much time has passed is a great feeling.

On the other hand, people find value in being remembered. Even people with the above feelings may fall into this category as well. Being remembered is about people thinking to include you. It’s about getting that random phone call asking how life is going. In some ways, it’s what everyone wants in their life, a friend that always remembers them.

I could go on about problems with communication for days. The takeaway is, communication is complicated for everyone. Every human being is terrible at it, so every human being can get better at it. Never let communication get in the way of your relationships just because it’s hard because communication is essential.